When the going gets tough in relationships are we really supposed to just deal with it? I used to believe that relationships were supposed to be this absolute perfect thing. As I have grown older I have learned that relationships are not perfect and they take a tremendous amount of work if you want them to be successful. However, there comes a time in any relationship if the drama outweighs the love then there may need to do some reconsidering on the relationship. Sometimes you can work on a relationship and there be no progress, therefore, the work really isn't paying off. The big question would be what is it that you are working on if no progress is being made. As I have stood in the background and watched one of my closest girlfriends relationship it has reminded me of my previous relationship in many aspects. She just like I did has fought very hard for the man she loves and the relationship she is in, but it has come to a complete stand still. She has been through everything with this man yet and still he continues to do wrong. His wrong doings continue to break her heart and make her unhappy. Although there will always be some sort of drama in a relationship there has to also be boundaries set. We no matter man or woman have to know exactly what we want and what we are and aren't willing to put up with in a relationship. If the same mistakes become repetitive then it is really not a mistake anymore it has become more of a habit. Sometimes difficult decisions have to be made to bring peace to a situation, even if it does mean ending a relationship. Sometimes we try and fight the fact that we really need to let go but in reality it may be something that we just need to do. After ending a relationship I had been in for three years I was heartbroken but time definitely allowed me to see that he was not the one for me. I did not deserve the things that he put me through and he didnt deserve me and the woman I was to him. So with that being said my friend does not deserve the things that she has to endure everyday in the relationship she is in and her worth is far more valuable than him and the things he puts her through. To her, you are one of the strongest women I know and everything will work out in due time, you and I both know this from past experiences.
SN: Anything worth having is worth fighting and if you really want something to work you have to go to war. Also remember both people have to put up an equal fight during the war or else the war becomes a total loss with nothing to fight for.
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