Relationships And Loving Yourself More

A very close girlfriend of mine serves as my muse for this post. She has had the hardest time in the relationship she is in and I know for her it is very discouraging as it would be for most of us. Granted the guy she is with is a good guy but he is young minded and often not the best man. Some men just aren't good men and don't know how to be or its hard for them to be, for there own reasons. She is pulled into different directions on what to do and is constantly at battle with her heart. Relationships are not always easy sometimes they are much like roses with sharp thorns. Hard to understand and let go, yet so easy to love and hang onto. Sometimes it is so easy to stay because we are so comfortable and don't want to start over with someone knew. We think we are so in love with the one we are with and continue to talk ourselves out of letting go. Yet if we just take a step back and ask ourselves what is it that we want out of life and in a relationship, those questions may give us a sense of direction for where we want to go. I have experience much of the woes she is experiencing now. My battle took me 3 years to conquer and now that I have conquered it, I am much more happier and reassured that I am who I want to be and there is nothing wrong with me. Loving a man is so much harder behind closed doors if he as a man isn't ready to be committed. Though she is much more experienced because she is a little older, I feel the need and want as a true friend to share my heart and inner most thoughts with her. While you may love the man you are with you will ALWAYS love YOURSELF more. You are a beautiful woman and will eventually move past this chapter only to look back at it and realize there is a blessing in every lesson. Letting go will be the first day of the rest of your life and will serve as a purpose for true happiness. I can never put into words the strength that I gain from you as a woman and the wisdom you share with me. You have been by my side at some of my most heart breaking moments, yet my most happiest ones also. I can't thank you enough for loving me for me flaws and all, I will forever love you just the same. The future looks bright for you from the way I see it especially in the love department. You will eventually find someone worthy of you who will truly love every bit of the woman you are. In closing I must share something I read the other day and that is "It's better to be single and alone, than in a relationship wishing you were alone". <3

The Likings Of Someone New

When liking someone new it can be very exciting and can also be very scary. The what if's, does he or she like me too, and not knowing exactly what the other person thinks of you is the scary parts. While the exciting parts consist of getting to know someone, enjoying yourself with that person, and possibly becoming friends. Friends first makes things a lot better, it gives the opportunity for growth into something more and makes for a stronger relationship if it grows into something more. If the friendship happens to just stay a friendship, then you gained a new friend. Being able to be friends first always takes the pressure off of the tense expectations of liking someone new. While its fun to like someone, don't get so wrapped up into the liking part to where you forget how to just let things come naturally. Don't force anything let time tell and turn it into what it's going to eventually be if it be anything at all. Remember a few things enjoy yourself in the likings of someone new, enjoy the other persons company, and don't let time keep track of the experience. The experience becomes more fun if you can just relax and let go.

First Impressions And Then Some

First impressions are everything or so I have been told a time or two. Sometimes meeting someone new can be very nerve racking, especially if you are a woman like me. A woman like me meaning someone who seems to think that meeting a new a guy entails some hidden agenda on his end with some kind of game he wants to play. Well tonight proved me wrong, I met a guy who for one of the first times didn't have a hidden agenda. He just wanted to meet a new friend, get to know the real me, and allowed me to get to know the real him. I was instantly calm after a few minutes of talking to him and was able to have an honest laugh that I haven't had in awhile with a guy. Though today is only day one and tomorrow opinions could be different about one another, I can only hope they stay the same or get even better. One thing that still rings true, don't ever judge a book by its cover because what's inside may definitely surprise you. With that being said I can say that I met a guy who left a genuine first impression and then some that has changed my opinion about some things. ;-)

Some Things Never Change

Have you ever let time pass you by or it passed you by without you even knowing? When you finally catch back up with time or time catches back up with you, do things still seem to be the same? Almost as if nothing has changed? Why does it seem like some things never change? Maybe it is because they will not change. Somethings good or bad never change. There are moments in life that are a bit sweeter when the best things in life stay the same almost like they are never suppose to change anyways. The not so good things on the other hand, well the truth is we probably wished they would change but deep down we know they never will. We eventually just have to accept that some things good or bad will never change. It is perfectly fine if some things always stay the same and never change , because it's a part of life. Life is all about change and change. Though we may want them to, we will never be able to force change, some things just have to change themselves if they are going to change at all. Other things ,however, can stay the same forever and it makes the most perfect sense in the world. <3

Let Go Let Flow

Sometimes when relationships end it is often hard to go into another one without some hesitation. Although it may be clear that we want to move on, there may be some anxiety of what will happen next or what will you do next. The fear of what's to come is that which makes us paranoid of moving on. So what if things didn't go right in previous relationships, why is it fair to hold the memories of old relationships against new ones that could be possible if we would just let go of all the baggage, hurt feelings, and bitterness that follows us. We, including myself because I am just as guilty, have to learn to be okay with things not working out. Learn from what happened, start over, and be thankful for the lessons good or bad that you learned. Everything doesn't end with bitter intentions and not all things to come are going to fall apart. Of course we will be cautious with our hearts but don't be too cautious to where you may miss out on the wonderful things and people that could actually work out in your life. The next time you think about not taking a chance remember chances are the things that makes life a little more worthwhile. Let go of the past and let the future flow.

Once Upon A Gentleman

I met this guy once about 3 years ago right after I got in to a serious relationship with my previous fiancé. He was quite the gentleman but timing was terrible so I never actually met him. This past fall he was in town so I met him and getting to know him was rather nice. He wasn't like normal guys and nothing happened, but just knowing there were still gentleman left in the world was such a pleasant thought. He was smart, down to earth, had goals, and a lot of potential. Although he was leaving the next day I was glad I got to finally meet him, not only him but also the gentleman that he was. There however was a few things that bothered me about this gentleman he cared a lot about what other people thought. The other thing was he came across rather arrogant and it is not attractive in the case that you are trying to impress a girl. Without those two things he would have been absolutely perfect and I couldn't have like him more. I just hope he realizes that he can be a gentleman all day everyday but the arrogance can kill it in the matter of minutes. With that being said I believe there are still gentleman left in the world, and maybe just maybe I'll find me one of them.

Change....Why Is It So Difficult?

Sitting here on this rainy and less than perfect first day of January 2011, I can't help but think about relationships. Why do we condone the most hurtful and selfish behavior from our partners. Even though I am single now I still remember the days when things in my former relationship wasn't always perfect. When in a relationship most of us get too comfortable and being too comfortable stops us from doing something about the things that hinders our growth as individuals. In relationships we as human beings are still supposed to be able to grow as an individual and with the person we are with. A lot of times we put up with irrelevant behavior from our significant other because we think that things will change but the question is will they really change? From a person who still believes in love sometimes things will not change, therefore we have to make the decision to make a change about the things that are not going to change themselves. Though change can sometimes be difficult and hurtful, staying in a relationship with a partner who will always be "themselves" without change can be much more hurtful than making your own change. To change is to grow and if we aren't changing we aren't growing. Remember there are two things in life that are constant, that is change and change.