Relationships And Loving Yourself More

A very close girlfriend of mine serves as my muse for this post. She has had the hardest time in the relationship she is in and I know for her it is very discouraging as it would be for most of us. Granted the guy she is with is a good guy but he is young minded and often not the best man. Some men just aren't good men and don't know how to be or its hard for them to be, for there own reasons. She is pulled into different directions on what to do and is constantly at battle with her heart. Relationships are not always easy sometimes they are much like roses with sharp thorns. Hard to understand and let go, yet so easy to love and hang onto. Sometimes it is so easy to stay because we are so comfortable and don't want to start over with someone knew. We think we are so in love with the one we are with and continue to talk ourselves out of letting go. Yet if we just take a step back and ask ourselves what is it that we want out of life and in a relationship, those questions may give us a sense of direction for where we want to go. I have experience much of the woes she is experiencing now. My battle took me 3 years to conquer and now that I have conquered it, I am much more happier and reassured that I am who I want to be and there is nothing wrong with me. Loving a man is so much harder behind closed doors if he as a man isn't ready to be committed. Though she is much more experienced because she is a little older, I feel the need and want as a true friend to share my heart and inner most thoughts with her. While you may love the man you are with you will ALWAYS love YOURSELF more. You are a beautiful woman and will eventually move past this chapter only to look back at it and realize there is a blessing in every lesson. Letting go will be the first day of the rest of your life and will serve as a purpose for true happiness. I can never put into words the strength that I gain from you as a woman and the wisdom you share with me. You have been by my side at some of my most heart breaking moments, yet my most happiest ones also. I can't thank you enough for loving me for me flaws and all, I will forever love you just the same. The future looks bright for you from the way I see it especially in the love department. You will eventually find someone worthy of you who will truly love every bit of the woman you are. In closing I must share something I read the other day and that is "It's better to be single and alone, than in a relationship wishing you were alone". <3