The Truth Hurts But So Do Lies

I sometimes find it hard to accept the truth as I am sure others do as well. One lesson I have learned is that telling the truth is always going to have the best outcome, verses being dishonest. Although the truth may hurt at times, the truth definitely makes things a lot easier to deal with. When telling one lie you usually have to tell another which eventually turns into a domino effect and makes a mess out of situations. Lies can bring turmoil to relationships, friendships, and not to mention break hearts. As I am sure most of us have learned that honesty is the best policy, we have to remember how bad it feels when someone lies to us and lying to someone else can hurt also. As I have watched lies break peoples hearts they have definitely broken mine as well but just because someone lies to me does not at all mean that I have to be dishonest in return. I will always live by honesty being the best policy and telling the truth will always make me the better person. I want the truth no matter what and I will also give the truth in return. Lying is definitely one of my biggest pet peeves and I often find it hard to forgive someone who has lied to me because of the hurt it brings and how betrayed I feel by the person who has lied to me. Remember a lie doesn't care who tells it but the truth doesn't either.

Thank You My Only Friend Named Monique

I have a friend that whenever my heart feels heavy or I just need one of those incredible talks, she is always that one friend that I can call no matter what. Even if we have had our differences or time has passed and we didn't speak for awhile for whatever reasons, she still remains one of the best friends that I have ever had in my life. You are a friend with whom I can share everything with and at the end of the conversation feel at peace just by having you listen to me. When I am with you I feel more empowered than before and feel a sense of strength just by you telling me that I am perfect just the way I am. Thank you for being on my side even if there have been moments that I have made it hard for you to be. You make me a better person by just being apart of my everyday life, I can never thank you enough for the overwhelming love you give to me through our friendship. I hate the distance between us but I appreciate the time when we are together now more than ever because I know that those moments are the most worthwhile. I have memories with you that I will never give away and never would I want to have experienced them with anybody else in the entire world. There are moments throughout my days that I have a memory of something that has happened with us and can laugh until my stomach hurts. You made me feel extra special when I told you I had started my own blog and you said you couldn't wait to read, it was at that moment that I felt as if I had gained one of my biggest fans. Thank you for allowing me to be the Super Model that I always am, I feel most beautiful when I can be perfectly myself and nothing less. Yes, Monique you are right this friendship is til death do us part. Ever since I was a little girl I always wanted a friend named Monique, I found her and OMG do I love her. <3

"Trust"

"Trust" the word of so much importance, why do we really need to know what it is? As human beings trust is a way of life, the end to many things and the beginning of others? So many times it is hard to learn how to trust or to just take a leap of faith and do it? Perhaps it is because we have to train ourselves to do such a brave and not so simple thing. How do we make ourselves trust? What is the lesson plan to teach ourselves to trust the things that aren't so easy to trust and talk ourselves out of trusting the things we shouldn't have given an ounce of our trust in the first place? Misleading at times trust is sometimes the hardest thing to come by especially when dealing with relationships or even friendships. For relationships to have longevity there has to be a vital amount of trust between two people so that the relationship has the right building blocks for growth. For two people to truly love one another there has to be trust, if there is no trust there is no love nor is there a functioning relationship. The question that is often asked what is love without trust, and the answer, love is nothing without trust. Friendships have less precautions, the importance of trust is valued a little differently, unless however you are someone like me, guarded at all times with both friendships and relationships. From experience I have learned that once trust is broken, it is hard to ever compensate or get it back, which is usually why things are never the same. Lessons taught through experience play a huge factor with being able to trust people and situations. The harder the lesson the harder it may be for someone to trust certain things. There ,however, are things that we trust and take little to no time making our decisions to trust it because we think there is less of a risk involved. Though we may go through certain things in life, there comes a point in time when we have to learn from the things that once made us so cautious about trusting and be done with them. Those lessons and experiences that make it harder to trust aren't there to control us, they are there for the sole purpose of being the stepping stones to lessons we must learn. Trust is simply what we make of it, to trust or not to trust is very detrimental in how we live our lives and the relationships and friendships we encounter along the way.

The Forgiven's But The Not Forgotten's

Yesterday I realized something new or maybe not new just something that I haven't really thought about. After almost 7 months of the not engaged anymore single life something dawned on me, I truly am over him. Fully, completely, and entirely I am over the three year relationship that was full of love, tears, and the untruthful part of the things I once thought were real. The beginning was great not to mention the in between parts but somewhere in the middle things seemed to unravel right in front of my eyes. While he loved me, he seemed to forget the man he once portrayed and became the man he really was all along. Cheating and lying became a normal day for him and an unhappy one for me. I continued to forgive something that I had never actually done myself. I had made excuses for him and allowed him to manipulate me in the worst possible ways. Yes I loved him but I couldn't be the only one fighting for the relationship that we both were in. I realized that the engagement wasn't as serious to him as it was to me. I made one of the biggest decisions thus far in my 25 years of life and that was to leave him. I left behind every bit of the three years that I had once thought was going to be forever and started over. I realized that I was that girl I never thought I would be while being in love for so long, I was unhappy, heartbroken, and no longer in love. Time has passed and there isn't a day that a thought doesn't cross my mind about one of the very many lessons I learned from that chapter of my life, however, one of the most important things I could ever say is "I forgive him". After telling someone those very words today, she said that she couldn't be me because she holds grudges and she especially couldn't forgive someone for the type of things he put me through. My response was time has moved me on and I forgive him because it has given me the opportunity for growth as a woman who still believes in true love. I couldn't truly move on to something new if I had not forgiven the one person who gave me some of the greatest lessons I had ever learned. I knew that the most important part of starting a new chapter was forgiving him and letting go of the things that no longer gave my life meaning. As for him I wish him well in all that he does, I hope he finds himself and becomes a better man. I wish him love and all good things that love can bring to ones life and when he thinks of me I hope he knows that he lost possibly the best thing that ever happened to him. On the other hand there will always be the memories not forgotten because in life you can forgive but should never forget. The things that I will never forget will help me in the future and remind me of the journey that I once traveled to get to this point in my life. The experience itself has been a growing catalyst for the woman I have become and long to be. I know my worth, who I am, and that I love myself so much more than any unhappy relationship and man. I am thankful and blessed to be at the point that I am at in my life at this very moment. The answer that some people may be wondering, YES I still believe in LOVE, the ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't live without each other LOVE! <3

To momz who told me that one day the empty feeling that I once had will eventually just go...It has gone and I am thankful that you were there to reassure me that I would eventually find peace. I have found it in my everyday Super Model Life! Love, Me <3

I Love Your Point Of View and Thank You

A wonderful guy friend of mine with whom I have had the pleasure in knowing for a minute now, never has a problem sharing his highly valued opinion. He is a wonderful friend and mentor, he is always there to listen and be truthful at all cost no matter what the situation is. He has been an in influential part in teaching me the business aspect of the work we do. I know with his teachings I have the best mentor of anyone I know. My future success with the business we are in is because of his never ending knowledge and my determination to always be my best. His life teachings are untouchable as well, there is never a question that goes unanswered. Never has there been a moment that he hasn't given an honest direct and to the point opinion. Relationships, business, and all else that occurs he is always someone that I can go to for the most honest of the honest opinions. I feel fortunate and blessed for his presence in my life. I am forever indebted to you for all you have brought,done, and will bring in future endeavors. Thank you for also teaching me that laughter is better than any amount of bs or sadness that can occur in my life on any given day. In closing I can truly say "I love your point of view cause you hold no punches". Thank You.

To One Of My Closest Girlfriends

One of my closest girlfriends with whom I share a friendship with is the reason for this post. She is a wise woman with a tremendous amount of class. Her style is untouchable and she is a wonderful mother. She has been through a lot the last few years but everything happens for a reason. Cliche but very true just be patient mama Mr. Big will eventually come into your life and never leave. He will stay forever and love you for everything you are worth and much more. His appreciation for you will speak volumes and not only that, he will cherish everything about you. I am glad we are girlfriends and thankful that you are apart of my life. You share laughs, chaotic moments, and those simple moments that mean the most when friendships are really real. We have been through it all together and I wouldn't trade any of it for anything else in the world. I am glad we had a Sex and The City movie night Christmas Eve, it's those moments that are more worthwhile and meaningful. Thank you in advance for the rest of our life long friendship and sharing your kids with me. Oh how I love you and them terribly. Love, Me <3 Your Super Model Mama
P.S. This is your Birthday card...may the next year be filled with some of the most happiest moments of your life!

The Over Analyzing Of The Impossibles

Relationships, friendships, and life can be a hassle especially when we over analyze every detail of everything that happens. Things would be so much more enjoyable without all the chaotic thoughts and worrying of what this, that, and everything else means. I myself can speak from experience when I say I have over analyzed and thought too much about some of the most pettiest things. Today I had a small example of it, trying to figure out what the words that were actually being said to me really meant inside someone else's mind. I also know that some things bother me more than they really should. The truth is there is no way to figure the IMPOSSIBLE out. Though some things are worth thinking about, others would be less stressful and less time consuming if we would allow the things that we have no control over, to happen the way they are going to. We should learn to be more acceptable to change rather than worry about this, that, and everything else. The simplest things would be a lot more simpler without the why this and why that's. The next time we start to analyze the words, actions, or expressions of someone we like or someone we are just mere friends with, take a deep breath and allow whatever is going to happen, to just happen. Remember there is no need to worry about things we have no control over. Let Go Let Flow.