My Three Best Guy Friends

There have been people that I haven't seen at all since graduating high school. Although some people I could truly live without seeing for the rest of my life there are a few that I wouldn't mind catching up with at all. I had the opportunity of catching up with a few of them the past week and it was some of the funnest moments in my adult life that I have had. Two of them I hadn't seen in 7 years since we graduated and one of them I have seen within the past couple of years but as of late hadn't seen him at all. Its within those moments of the last week that I have been able to catch up with three of my best guy friends in the whole world that I haven't seen in years. The four of us are truly all grown up now living our lives and doing our own thing. However we were still the same fun people that we were before we graduated and went our separate ways. Phillip (Adonijah) we shared a locker for three years, it was well worth every bit of the hassle we went through fighting over space. That lion is still apart of my life and every time I look at it I think of you. Thank you for the turning me onto the new Starbucks drink and also being my Hookah partner for the very first time in both of our lives. I enjoyed sharing the my downtown Sex And The City Life with you. You will be my best guy friend forever. Dominick what can I say, when you walked into the room the other night that chemistry we have had since freshman year for about 11 years now is still there, my heart fluttered. That chemistry will probably never leave either one of our lives. You still make me that giggly girl that I always have been around you and will always be when I am around you and vice versa. I love you absolutely until the end of time and I'm down for you because you are down for me. I feel completely lucky because all the girls use to want you but I had you and your friendship wrapped tightly around my fingers. Jamal even though you are "THE UNC" graduate I still love you though I'm a Duke fan usually. Getting in those window displays in Belk or any store won't be the same without you, while you are gone to the Army. However, future Starbucks and window display adventures will be a total laugh and something I can't wait to do. Your twitter will totally be filled by me when you are gone :-)! I love you Mr. Ooh Na Na What's My Name!!! You three guys will I believe for the most part be a part of my life forever. Though Phil and Jamal will continue to live away the reunions will be great. Dominick you are back and I'm here and we will continue to have Dom and Cee time! I love you guys without an end, thank you for the laughs as of late and forever! Love, The All Grown Up Candice turned Super Model <3

New Conversation

Ever heard the saying when one door closes another door opens? How about the saying when someone walks out of your life someone else will walk in? Well I believe when good conversation walks out new conversation will walk in and may be even better than the conversation that previously walked out. There can be people in your life that you talk to but people that you have good conversation with are sometimes hard to find. I have been fortunate in finding great conversation but also less fortunate to have great conversation leave as well. As of late a few conversations have left that I do miss but there have been a few to introduce themselves to my life. I must say it has been a pleasure being able to get to know these newly introduced conversations. I have been allowed to laugh and giggle uncontrollably about random things that these conversations bring. The conversations have taught me new things about the people in them and I have been able to share a few things myself. These conversations don't have topics they are just go with the flow and whatever happens to come up we just talk about it. That's the fun and entertaining part, being able to let whatever there is to talk about just come out. The even better part about these conversations is that they allow myself and the other person to be honest about the talk at hand and to say whatever it is we want to say. Whether these conversations are ones that will last or ones that will walk out to let others walk in, they will definitely be interesting ones filled with new lessons and plenty of giggles.

To Tell The Truth

As human beings sometimes telling the truth may be a bit of a challenge but the truth must be told. In my book being truthful and completely honest is always the best route to take. A straight and narrow path that takes you straight to the truth or long and winding road which can eventually lead to a lie, which do you choose. As most people have, there have been times that I found myself wanting to tell a lie rather than the truth because I thought it would make the situation easier or go away quicker. In reality me telling a lie would have only brought hardship to a situation that would have taken its time getting to the truth in the end. The truth hurts at times but no matter how bad the truth hurts, it is always better to be hurt with the truth than to be killed by a lie. Though there are moments of debate, for some situations telling the truth is all we have to give and makes the most sense. For other situations we tell the truth because we just can't help ourselves and naturally what we say just happens to be the truth. There are those times that we should tell the truth because we owe at least that much to a particular person or situation. In the end it is easy, telling the truth can be rather simple, sometimes we need to say it out loud to hear it for ourselves.

Pretty Is As Pretty Does

The statement is very true pretty is as pretty does. I speak for everyone man or woman when I say this, what is on the inside of you is makes you the most attractive. Ladies remember if you act like a lady you will attract a gentleman and gentlemen if act like a true gentleman you will attract a lady. Your morals, the way you carry yourself, and your self respect makes you the most attractive. All the time I hear you are so pretty or so beautiful and while I am thankful and appreciative of these compliments, I also want to let people know the outside of me doesn't come close to comparing to the beauty on the inside of me. The make up I have on, my shoes, and clothes make me look pretty on the outside but the inside of me surpasses all outside attractiveness that you will see. Knowing my self worth and who I really am will make me far more prettier than the way I look on any good or bad day. The way you dress, what brands you wear, and how your hair looks are only the facades that make you pretty, inner beauty will outshine these things on any day. Pretty on the outside surely doesn't mean pretty on the inside, you can be a fly person with the best swag ever and be dark on the inside. When you are happy on the inside it makes you beautiful on the outside and no matter what, your true colors will always come to the surface. When you want to be truly attractive be who you really are, the real you because it is much better to be the real you than the fake somebody else. Remember human is absolutely beautiful and perfect is absolutely boring.

Sometimes Relationships End

When committing ourselves to a relationship, we never really think about relationships ending but sometimes they do. The endings of the things we love so much can definitely be heartbreaking but sometimes the endings to these things can also be a relief and a journey to new happiness. Though we truly love the people we embark on these relationships with we can also resent them at times because of the strain that they put on the relationships we have with them. Granted no relationship is going to be perfect and you will fight some of the hardest battles in them, however, we also have to remember that some relationships are not worth being continuously unhappy for. When the drama and hurt become too much it may be best to just let it be over. Learning how to let what's not meant to be just be over will not only make you feel better, it can also be the best for you in the long run. Though some things end it doesn't mean that nothing good will come from those things that we once loved. Learning the lessons of the experience itself will make you a better person and also give you guidance for future relationships. Let relationships be what they will be, accept the change within them and don't be estranged. I speak from experience when I say that sometimes its better to let go than hold on because holding on to something can definitely hurt worse and break your heart more in the end. When your heart gets broken remember it is the nature of hearts to break, it is part of there job description. We as human beings will have our fair share of heartbreaks but its how we handle those heartbreaks that makes the difference.

To one of my best girlfriends whose relationship just ended, it is your time to be happy again. With this new start I hope you find all the things that brings immense joy to your heart. Some man will one day appreciate all of you and everything you have to offer. You will one day find the love that completes your life, when you find it you will know it and it will be yours to keep forever. <3

Make Yourself Happy

Putting others before yourself, trying to please everyone, or doing for everyone but yourself, we have all done it but when does it end. There are times that giving is more rewarding but there are also times when the giving gets taken for granted also. So how do we tell the difference between the appreciative people and the non appreciative people, the answer will be clear on how the person you do so much for treats you in return. Sometimes we have to let the people who don't always appreciate us learn on there own and realize for themselves how good they really have it. I have found myself in similar situations and eventually I realized that this is my life, I can't make everyone happy but instead I need to make myself happy. I have one life and I should be able to live my life for me, and not everyone else. So if you are trying to help everyone or you are putting other peoples happiness before your own happiness, stop and remember you can't always please everyone. However, you can please yourself and live to make yourself happy then in turn the people around you will be happy too. Do what you want to do and be who you want to be, do not let others control your destiny or have some kind of damper on your happiness. We as human beings have to learn that not everyone is going to be happy but if you want to be happy then that is something you have to do on your own in your own way. To make yourself happy and live your life the way you want to is not selfish, the selfish part would be wasting your time not being happy or living the way you want to because tomorrow is not promised to us. Remember you are only as happy as you allow yourself to be, so you are the remote that controls your happiness. Make you happy and be happy today, tomorrow, and forever!

Could My Mistake Have Messed Up My Fate

The question that really exist is, did I make a mistake and mess up my fate? The catch 22 thing definitely does exist especially when you are dealing with whether or not you should be honest about how you feel. I feel as though if I say how I feel it will mess things up and if I don't say how I feel then it eventually mess things up, so either way things will be messed up. Though it may not be as complicated as I am making it to be, on the inside of me it is as complicated as it seems. If I would have just spoken how I felt, then at this very moment maybe I wouldn't be feeling as though me not saying anything was a mistake. We certainly can choose what our mouths say to other people but can we really choose how things will end up with those people as well. That's the hard part about life, friendships, and relationships our actions and emotions play a very important role on the outcome of these parts of our lives. We, however, can't choose when the beginning or ending to something will be only time can really determine that for us. Though it may have been a mistake for me to say how I feel it could have in turn been a mistake not sharing how I feel, but only time can truly tell. So maybe our mistakes is what make our fate and without them what would shape our lives. Perhaps if we never veered off course we wouldn't fall in love or be who we really are. After all I have learned seasons do change, people come into our lives for seasons and people leave just as quickly as they came. At the end of the day its comforting to know the ones you love and care for will always be in your heart and if your as lucky as I am a plane ride away too. <3