Girlfriends That Are Soul Mates

Sometimes you have those girlfriends that you have the most care free friendship with and not much effort has to be given to keep things blissfully happy. They are those girls that complete your life and remain true throughout any situation. Sometimes people come into your life for a season but girlfriends come into your life for a reason and stay an entire life time. My girlfriends are the women who truly make my life so much more worthwhile and are definitely my soul mates. There is a friend with whom I met as of late through twitter of all places, and I most certainly consider her a girlfriend now. She and I hit it off immediately, we have fashion, simple treasures, and most of all Sex And The City in common, we are totally in sync with every reference of SATC. So I hope to one day meet you GiGi from St. Louis but maybe we can meet in LA or NY, those cities are more suitable for two SATC girls like ourselves. I never expected a person who has never met me to volunteer to create a new blog layout for me, without me even asking. My blog is definitely a big part of who I am and who I long to be, you allowed the new layout to represent exactly that. I thank you GiGi for your amazing gesture, it was one of those simple pleasures in life that creates the best happiness. I am humbled through you being a kind and gracious new girlfriend with whom I can call my soul mate. "Maybe we can be each other's soul mates and then we can let men be these great nice guys to have fun with". <3
P.S.
You cry Dior tears and I cry Chanel tears...As long as they're couture tears.

A Statement So True

Have you ever had you opinion or judgment about someone you didn't even know, and after really getting to know that someone your simple opinion was proven all wrong. "Do not judge a book by its cover" is definitely a statement that holds true meaning. Many times I have learned the lesson of that particular statement but recently I have learned it again and it meant something totally different than what it usually means to me. Sometimes we are very deceived by someone's actions through first impressions which later leads to deception because we had a good impression than we should have had of a person. Then other people seem to surprise us when our opinions of them are a little harsh but the person themselves turn out to be something special. After months of knowing someone but not really getting to know her I have learned an extremely important life lesson as well as the not judging a book by its cover lesson once again. I had my opinion already set in stone and made up because of her attitude she once presented to me and I knew if it was bad the first time it couldn't be good the second time. However, after truly talking to this girl she was absolutely a great person on the inside, a diamond in the rough you could say. Her battles in life has truly made her the person she is, like myself she is every bit of the woman she is because of her life. I can truly appreciate the honesty about a human being when I am able to hear the truth from that person. I feel like knowing what I do about her life through what I have learned from her, now I can appreciate the person she is more. So the next time instead of judging someone I will remember to get to know them first. People including myself should learn to treat each person as a treasure because everyone has there own story to tell and a lesson to teach from it. I for one know that first hand because of my story that my life allows me to tell and I can truly learn from someone else's too. So the next time you start to judge a person by their outer shell remember the inside could be beautiful just like the colorful pages of a book through the story it tells.

The Last Single Girl

On Saturday I will be attending a wedding as a date less single girl. The last three weddings I attended I caught the bouquet but still no luck, just a failed engagement that ended last fall. So by now I am thinking maybe I will be single for the rest of my life or maybe Mr. Big hasn't walked in my life yet. As I watch everyone around me in happy relationships or in love, I continue to wonder am I really the last single girl? Before I ended my last relationship in the fall I was that girl who watched everyone around me live a single life and be very happy doing so. Now almost everyone that was single at that point is now happily in a relationship. I actually became the single girl that I use to be friends with and all my friends became the not single friends that's friends with that single girl they use to be. As I am a very happy single woman in my very single life, I must say I choose to be single because the right one hasn't yet come along. My being single is certainly not because guys aren't attracted to me, its just merely the fact that I haven't found a guy that I would want to date. As the past seven months have definitely allowed me to meet some very handsome and great gentlemen, they just haven't been the one for me. Being single for the time that I have, especially after a very dramatic relationship has definitely made me fall in love with myself and love myself even more than before. I have learned that being in a relationship isn't everything its cracked up to be. I actually know people that are in relationships that would rather not be and the people not in relationships that want to be in one and when they finally are in one, they realize its not everything they thought they were missing. So until I find someone who is worth me and my time, I have absolutely no problem being the last single girl at that wedding wearing a label less dress and styling it up with some shoes.

New Beginnings

We all at some point in our lives have experienced new beginnings. The new beginnings may be new relationships, friendships, or just life. Starting over or starting something new is definitely exciting and scary, but all worth it too. It means being able to experience something you never have before and being able to truly appreciate a new opportunity. I have had many new beginnings in my life and have experienced first hand just how wonderful something new can truly be, when its fresh and new. So whenever you are blessed or lucky which ever you so choose to be and are able to experience a new beginning be open to it. New beginnings aren't bad and doesn't necessarily mean that something bad has happened to allow you to start over, it just means there is something even better to look forward to. With everything new in your life that you are able to experience always make it worthwhile because with each experience comes some of the best lessons and blessings life has to offer. Remember in life every ending is a new beginning.

To my best friend Heather or as the world knows you Herfection ....Happy Relaunch Day! I hope your party tonight be filled with lots of happiness and a new beginning that you will never ever forget, I only wished I could be there. You are so much of the reason that I write this blog.....Thank You. <3

Missing Them

I miss people just like everyone else does, but it just so happens that my two best friends with whom I miss the most happen to not be at finger tip reach anymore. They aren't at the grasp of my want and I can't just go to there house for a visit to make me feel better. It has been a whole month since I seen Monique and was two months since I seen Heather last until this past week. Being without those two is like being without water when I'm thirsty, my mouth parched and feels exceptionally dry. They are the two most fresh breaths of air on days that seem like air just isn't sufficient and they give me sun light on the rainiest of my days. Who would have ever thought that I would have to be without them at this point in my life, when I had them both for so long. With missing them the not so happy days definitely seem like some of the longest days I'll ever have and on the happiest days they are still a phone call away and not a personal visit away. However, when I have either of them here life is exactly how its supposed to be and I don't have a care in the world. When both of them are gone or leave, I don't lose them all in one day, I lose them in pieces over time, kinda like how the sun stops shining from fall to winter. The thing I remember the most is there laughs and oh how I hate it when they leave after a visit and I can't hear it perfectly anymore. I am not completely empty because I still have them in my life and I feel so very lucky to be able to have them at all. Until next time my two bests I love the both of you like there is no tomorrow and miss you two terribly. <3
P.S.
Heather you totally made me want to pack my ish and go to New York with you, when you were home visiting this weekend. Hearing you talk about its potential, how you never want to live anywhere else, and how in love you are with the life of the city almost made me drop everything in my life here. Even though my life is quite lovely and has its own sex and the city aura, I almost wanted to find that potential there just like you have. I hated seeing you walk away and saying bye to you last night but there are plenty visits ahead to look forward to...<3

My Forever Friend

Two of my best girlfriends live away, one in another city and the other in a completely different state. While I miss them both very much, the time we spend apart makes the time we are able to spend together more appreciated. My best friend with whom I have been friends with since the 4th grade came home today for a visit for her upcoming birthday. My schedule is usually hectic and I usually have some conflicts of interest, however, today's agenda happened to be convenient because I was able to pick her up from the airport. The anticipation made my nerves insane because I hadn't seen her since December. As I rushed in to find her she was at baggage claim, as soon as I seen her I was calm and the happiest I had been in awhile. She was finally back again and at that moment I realized how much I had truly missed her. We played catch up with our two separate lives and had some laughs over lunch that I won't forget. Her laugh is something that I have missed most about her, it is pleasantly intoxicating and today I got to hear it clearly, not through the phone but in person. Everything in my life seemed like perfection because she was there to share those laughs with me. I appreciate every second of the time I got to spend with her but most of all I appreciated not having to miss her anymore because she was right there in front of me, living in the same moment that I was living in for a change. I won't ever be able to describe how lucky I am to have her or anybody that I truly love and care for in my life but I can tell you this, every single human being that I love in my life are priceless. True friends are hard to find, even harder to leave and even more impossible to forget. She is all of that to me and so much more and will always be because she is my forever friend. <3
P.S. If you ever read my blog its because of you that I wanted to create it. I know it will never come close to comparing to yours but its something that I love and through you and your blog I gained so much of the passion that I have for it. Thank You. <3

A Product Of Our Environment?

Are we really a product of our environment? Someone that I was having a conversation with the other day said to me that he believed we are products of our environment. I want to say I beg to differ in that reasoning. Being a product of the environment in which you were raised is almost like saying you are what you were raised in. A couple of different scenarios, a girl that use to be a good friend of mine her parents had great jobs, they lived in a wonderful house and they raised her well. However, she is always trying to be what she wasn't raised to be, a rebellious girl who lives on the edge and doesn't seem to care where her life is going. Another great example of not being a product of the environment in which you were brought up in, a guy that I know had a rough upbringing and should have been on the path of self destruction and becoming what his environment was. Instead he excelled in basketball, got a college degree, is now successful, and happily married. Lastly I will use someone personal and close to home, myself, I haven't lived with my mother since I was 5 and my aunt and her husband raised me to the best of there ability. My mom wasn't the best person, however, I do love her but everyone was expecting me to be who she was self destructive and on a path to nothing good. I proved them wrong I graduated high school and tried the fashion school thing. I am successful in the work that I do, I work hard, and I have a wonderful life. I fell in love and that was an accomplishment because it was something that she was never able to do. I found true happiness and peace within myself that makes my life wonderful on a daily basis. I became one strong woman and it wasn't because my environment taught me to be, instead it was because I was a determined enough individual who put all my potential to great use. So really its rather overrated to say you are a product of your environment because simply proven, not everybody is.