Learning To Love Again

For anyone ending a relationship it is hard but sometimes the harder part is allowing you to move on, and love again. These are the tricky things in life but there comes a time when you have to let go of past demons, relationships, and heartbreaks, so that you can feel those beautiful things there use to be with someone new. As hard as these things may be the thought of not ever loving again should be even harder for you to grasp than the thought of you ever being hear broken again. Heartbreaks and people come and go, however, you can choose to move on, start fresh, and let life be the beautiful thing that is even if sometimes it can be heartbreaking. The heartbreak and lessons learned are what makes love, life and friendships so much more worthwhile, and without these things life wouldn’t be as pleasurable. A girlfriend of mine has been seeing a guy for 8 months but is hesitant to move to the next phase and begin a real relationship with him. However she does like him and says that he is the greatest guy she has ever met and he in fact has changed her life but that she feels like she is not ready for a "relationship". I beg to differ and I told her that she is ready for a relationship but is instead getting in her own way and will not let herself be in a relationship. I feel as though she is scared to put herself out there because she does not want to be hurt again but every relationship is not going to be like the last, she does have the choice to take everything she has learned from the past and make this relationship a better one if she chooses to do so. She will eventually have to open her heart again as we all do at one point or another to someone even if it is not the guy she is seeing at the present moment, so why not open her heart now being that she has found someone she really likes and that likes her in return.

To her, I hope you trust the woman you are enough to make yourself happy. Love is amazing and maybe it is your time to feel just how amazing it can be after all this time. You have learned from the past and are a wiser and better person because of those things that taught you some of the hardest lessons. Do not let yourself miss out on love and all the wonder things that it will bring to your life because you are scared or feel as though you are not ready. Instead have a positive outlook and look at is as a journey that can be this beautiful and life changing experience. Many people never get the chance to experience love, so know that you are truly blessed because you have the opportunity for love to be a part of your life again. Hopefully you can find it in your heart to give love a chance before you throw it away again, it may surprise you this time around.