To The Both Of You

One of best girlfriends and her fiancé serves as my muses for this post. The two of them will be getting married in December of this year and I couldn't be happier for the both of them. As a friend I wanted to share some advice and encouraging words with the two of them. Being engaged and preparing for the big day is really exciting but don't let the wedding become bigger than the two of you, just go with the flow. When and if things become frustrating remember at the end of the day its all about being in love and sharing your life with each other. Make personal time for yourselves and enjoy it because once you're married its the two of you all the time, everyday, forever. Though things can be a challenge and a struggle at times remember that nothing will be as strong as the love you two have for one another, the two of you together can conquer anything if you believe in each other and your relationship. If at anytime one of you feel discouraged remember communication can get you through some of the most trying of times, so be open and honest with one another. Make sure you listen to each other too, listening can be the most detrimental to a growing relationship. I wish you both a life long relationship full of love, happiness, and peace with each other. May you both continue to grow in love and bring joy to each other's lives that you never knew existed.
*This is something to think about, some people wait there whole lives to fall in love, but if and when you find true love hold on tight and fight with everything you have for it, if it is meant to be it will be. Ladies remember you have to have your own life before you can be someone else's wife or girlfriend. <3*

Friendships And The Seldom Breaks

Why is it that some people find it so easy to end a friendship without cause or notice. Recently one of my best girlfriends and I had a disagreement, a very minor one to say the least. I had shared my opinion with her about something and while my words could have been rephrased and may have came across a little harsh, I find that I am supposed to be honest being that I am true friend. After the disagreement she said that she no longer wanted to continue our friendship, the details were minor and the next day she said we just needed a break for awhile. When two people have a friendship its not a maybe thing, a friendship is and should be a definite thing at all times. I find it hard to believe she ever considered our friendship real in the first place if it was that easy for her to say that we shouldn't be friends anymore all because of a minor disagreement. In this day and time its hard to find a real, truthful friend that will be there no matter what the day is. To her, I love you very much and I also love our friendship even if there is a break being taken. You have been there by my side and watched from the sidelines as I went through some of the most happiest moments and most saddest moments of my life. I have also been there to witness and help you through some moments in your life as well. I am sorry if my honesty was too honest, maybe I should have been fake from the beginning so that you had a real reason to end the friendship or take a break. I have always kept it real with you because you have always kept it real with me regardless the truth and how it might have hurt, that's what friends do. I ,however, will remain true to myself and the fact that I will always be a good friend to those who I consider my friends. I am still a friend to you and will be there if you ever need a "real friend" because without a doubt in my mind our friendship is a real friendship. The babies give meaning and joy to my life that I have no right to ever expect and I thank you for still allowing them to be apart of my life regardless of our difference in opinions. They bring my life a sense of peace and its only with the peace they have brought that I have been allowed to experience the happiness that I do when I am with them. I will always be there for them even on the most chaotic days, and you also for that matter. I love you and will not totally mark out our friendship forever, for a break can only last so long, let me know when its over. I am patiently waiting so that we can watch Sex And The City together, because we are just those girls <3.

The Truth Hurts But So Do Lies

I sometimes find it hard to accept the truth as I am sure others do as well. One lesson I have learned is that telling the truth is always going to have the best outcome, verses being dishonest. Although the truth may hurt at times, the truth definitely makes things a lot easier to deal with. When telling one lie you usually have to tell another which eventually turns into a domino effect and makes a mess out of situations. Lies can bring turmoil to relationships, friendships, and not to mention break hearts. As I am sure most of us have learned that honesty is the best policy, we have to remember how bad it feels when someone lies to us and lying to someone else can hurt also. As I have watched lies break peoples hearts they have definitely broken mine as well but just because someone lies to me does not at all mean that I have to be dishonest in return. I will always live by honesty being the best policy and telling the truth will always make me the better person. I want the truth no matter what and I will also give the truth in return. Lying is definitely one of my biggest pet peeves and I often find it hard to forgive someone who has lied to me because of the hurt it brings and how betrayed I feel by the person who has lied to me. Remember a lie doesn't care who tells it but the truth doesn't either.

Thank You My Only Friend Named Monique

I have a friend that whenever my heart feels heavy or I just need one of those incredible talks, she is always that one friend that I can call no matter what. Even if we have had our differences or time has passed and we didn't speak for awhile for whatever reasons, she still remains one of the best friends that I have ever had in my life. You are a friend with whom I can share everything with and at the end of the conversation feel at peace just by having you listen to me. When I am with you I feel more empowered than before and feel a sense of strength just by you telling me that I am perfect just the way I am. Thank you for being on my side even if there have been moments that I have made it hard for you to be. You make me a better person by just being apart of my everyday life, I can never thank you enough for the overwhelming love you give to me through our friendship. I hate the distance between us but I appreciate the time when we are together now more than ever because I know that those moments are the most worthwhile. I have memories with you that I will never give away and never would I want to have experienced them with anybody else in the entire world. There are moments throughout my days that I have a memory of something that has happened with us and can laugh until my stomach hurts. You made me feel extra special when I told you I had started my own blog and you said you couldn't wait to read, it was at that moment that I felt as if I had gained one of my biggest fans. Thank you for allowing me to be the Super Model that I always am, I feel most beautiful when I can be perfectly myself and nothing less. Yes, Monique you are right this friendship is til death do us part. Ever since I was a little girl I always wanted a friend named Monique, I found her and OMG do I love her. <3

"Trust"

"Trust" the word of so much importance, why do we really need to know what it is? As human beings trust is a way of life, the end to many things and the beginning of others? So many times it is hard to learn how to trust or to just take a leap of faith and do it? Perhaps it is because we have to train ourselves to do such a brave and not so simple thing. How do we make ourselves trust? What is the lesson plan to teach ourselves to trust the things that aren't so easy to trust and talk ourselves out of trusting the things we shouldn't have given an ounce of our trust in the first place? Misleading at times trust is sometimes the hardest thing to come by especially when dealing with relationships or even friendships. For relationships to have longevity there has to be a vital amount of trust between two people so that the relationship has the right building blocks for growth. For two people to truly love one another there has to be trust, if there is no trust there is no love nor is there a functioning relationship. The question that is often asked what is love without trust, and the answer, love is nothing without trust. Friendships have less precautions, the importance of trust is valued a little differently, unless however you are someone like me, guarded at all times with both friendships and relationships. From experience I have learned that once trust is broken, it is hard to ever compensate or get it back, which is usually why things are never the same. Lessons taught through experience play a huge factor with being able to trust people and situations. The harder the lesson the harder it may be for someone to trust certain things. There ,however, are things that we trust and take little to no time making our decisions to trust it because we think there is less of a risk involved. Though we may go through certain things in life, there comes a point in time when we have to learn from the things that once made us so cautious about trusting and be done with them. Those lessons and experiences that make it harder to trust aren't there to control us, they are there for the sole purpose of being the stepping stones to lessons we must learn. Trust is simply what we make of it, to trust or not to trust is very detrimental in how we live our lives and the relationships and friendships we encounter along the way.

The Forgiven's But The Not Forgotten's

Yesterday I realized something new or maybe not new just something that I haven't really thought about. After almost 7 months of the not engaged anymore single life something dawned on me, I truly am over him. Fully, completely, and entirely I am over the three year relationship that was full of love, tears, and the untruthful part of the things I once thought were real. The beginning was great not to mention the in between parts but somewhere in the middle things seemed to unravel right in front of my eyes. While he loved me, he seemed to forget the man he once portrayed and became the man he really was all along. Cheating and lying became a normal day for him and an unhappy one for me. I continued to forgive something that I had never actually done myself. I had made excuses for him and allowed him to manipulate me in the worst possible ways. Yes I loved him but I couldn't be the only one fighting for the relationship that we both were in. I realized that the engagement wasn't as serious to him as it was to me. I made one of the biggest decisions thus far in my 25 years of life and that was to leave him. I left behind every bit of the three years that I had once thought was going to be forever and started over. I realized that I was that girl I never thought I would be while being in love for so long, I was unhappy, heartbroken, and no longer in love. Time has passed and there isn't a day that a thought doesn't cross my mind about one of the very many lessons I learned from that chapter of my life, however, one of the most important things I could ever say is "I forgive him". After telling someone those very words today, she said that she couldn't be me because she holds grudges and she especially couldn't forgive someone for the type of things he put me through. My response was time has moved me on and I forgive him because it has given me the opportunity for growth as a woman who still believes in true love. I couldn't truly move on to something new if I had not forgiven the one person who gave me some of the greatest lessons I had ever learned. I knew that the most important part of starting a new chapter was forgiving him and letting go of the things that no longer gave my life meaning. As for him I wish him well in all that he does, I hope he finds himself and becomes a better man. I wish him love and all good things that love can bring to ones life and when he thinks of me I hope he knows that he lost possibly the best thing that ever happened to him. On the other hand there will always be the memories not forgotten because in life you can forgive but should never forget. The things that I will never forget will help me in the future and remind me of the journey that I once traveled to get to this point in my life. The experience itself has been a growing catalyst for the woman I have become and long to be. I know my worth, who I am, and that I love myself so much more than any unhappy relationship and man. I am thankful and blessed to be at the point that I am at in my life at this very moment. The answer that some people may be wondering, YES I still believe in LOVE, the ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't live without each other LOVE! <3

To momz who told me that one day the empty feeling that I once had will eventually just go...It has gone and I am thankful that you were there to reassure me that I would eventually find peace. I have found it in my everyday Super Model Life! Love, Me <3

I Love Your Point Of View and Thank You

A wonderful guy friend of mine with whom I have had the pleasure in knowing for a minute now, never has a problem sharing his highly valued opinion. He is a wonderful friend and mentor, he is always there to listen and be truthful at all cost no matter what the situation is. He has been an in influential part in teaching me the business aspect of the work we do. I know with his teachings I have the best mentor of anyone I know. My future success with the business we are in is because of his never ending knowledge and my determination to always be my best. His life teachings are untouchable as well, there is never a question that goes unanswered. Never has there been a moment that he hasn't given an honest direct and to the point opinion. Relationships, business, and all else that occurs he is always someone that I can go to for the most honest of the honest opinions. I feel fortunate and blessed for his presence in my life. I am forever indebted to you for all you have brought,done, and will bring in future endeavors. Thank you for also teaching me that laughter is better than any amount of bs or sadness that can occur in my life on any given day. In closing I can truly say "I love your point of view cause you hold no punches". Thank You.

To One Of My Closest Girlfriends

One of my closest girlfriends with whom I share a friendship with is the reason for this post. She is a wise woman with a tremendous amount of class. Her style is untouchable and she is a wonderful mother. She has been through a lot the last few years but everything happens for a reason. Cliche but very true just be patient mama Mr. Big will eventually come into your life and never leave. He will stay forever and love you for everything you are worth and much more. His appreciation for you will speak volumes and not only that, he will cherish everything about you. I am glad we are girlfriends and thankful that you are apart of my life. You share laughs, chaotic moments, and those simple moments that mean the most when friendships are really real. We have been through it all together and I wouldn't trade any of it for anything else in the world. I am glad we had a Sex and The City movie night Christmas Eve, it's those moments that are more worthwhile and meaningful. Thank you in advance for the rest of our life long friendship and sharing your kids with me. Oh how I love you and them terribly. Love, Me <3 Your Super Model Mama
P.S. This is your Birthday card...may the next year be filled with some of the most happiest moments of your life!

The Over Analyzing Of The Impossibles

Relationships, friendships, and life can be a hassle especially when we over analyze every detail of everything that happens. Things would be so much more enjoyable without all the chaotic thoughts and worrying of what this, that, and everything else means. I myself can speak from experience when I say I have over analyzed and thought too much about some of the most pettiest things. Today I had a small example of it, trying to figure out what the words that were actually being said to me really meant inside someone else's mind. I also know that some things bother me more than they really should. The truth is there is no way to figure the IMPOSSIBLE out. Though some things are worth thinking about, others would be less stressful and less time consuming if we would allow the things that we have no control over, to happen the way they are going to. We should learn to be more acceptable to change rather than worry about this, that, and everything else. The simplest things would be a lot more simpler without the why this and why that's. The next time we start to analyze the words, actions, or expressions of someone we like or someone we are just mere friends with, take a deep breath and allow whatever is going to happen, to just happen. Remember there is no need to worry about things we have no control over. Let Go Let Flow.

Relationships And Loving Yourself More

A very close girlfriend of mine serves as my muse for this post. She has had the hardest time in the relationship she is in and I know for her it is very discouraging as it would be for most of us. Granted the guy she is with is a good guy but he is young minded and often not the best man. Some men just aren't good men and don't know how to be or its hard for them to be, for there own reasons. She is pulled into different directions on what to do and is constantly at battle with her heart. Relationships are not always easy sometimes they are much like roses with sharp thorns. Hard to understand and let go, yet so easy to love and hang onto. Sometimes it is so easy to stay because we are so comfortable and don't want to start over with someone knew. We think we are so in love with the one we are with and continue to talk ourselves out of letting go. Yet if we just take a step back and ask ourselves what is it that we want out of life and in a relationship, those questions may give us a sense of direction for where we want to go. I have experience much of the woes she is experiencing now. My battle took me 3 years to conquer and now that I have conquered it, I am much more happier and reassured that I am who I want to be and there is nothing wrong with me. Loving a man is so much harder behind closed doors if he as a man isn't ready to be committed. Though she is much more experienced because she is a little older, I feel the need and want as a true friend to share my heart and inner most thoughts with her. While you may love the man you are with you will ALWAYS love YOURSELF more. You are a beautiful woman and will eventually move past this chapter only to look back at it and realize there is a blessing in every lesson. Letting go will be the first day of the rest of your life and will serve as a purpose for true happiness. I can never put into words the strength that I gain from you as a woman and the wisdom you share with me. You have been by my side at some of my most heart breaking moments, yet my most happiest ones also. I can't thank you enough for loving me for me flaws and all, I will forever love you just the same. The future looks bright for you from the way I see it especially in the love department. You will eventually find someone worthy of you who will truly love every bit of the woman you are. In closing I must share something I read the other day and that is "It's better to be single and alone, than in a relationship wishing you were alone". <3

The Likings Of Someone New

When liking someone new it can be very exciting and can also be very scary. The what if's, does he or she like me too, and not knowing exactly what the other person thinks of you is the scary parts. While the exciting parts consist of getting to know someone, enjoying yourself with that person, and possibly becoming friends. Friends first makes things a lot better, it gives the opportunity for growth into something more and makes for a stronger relationship if it grows into something more. If the friendship happens to just stay a friendship, then you gained a new friend. Being able to be friends first always takes the pressure off of the tense expectations of liking someone new. While its fun to like someone, don't get so wrapped up into the liking part to where you forget how to just let things come naturally. Don't force anything let time tell and turn it into what it's going to eventually be if it be anything at all. Remember a few things enjoy yourself in the likings of someone new, enjoy the other persons company, and don't let time keep track of the experience. The experience becomes more fun if you can just relax and let go.

First Impressions And Then Some

First impressions are everything or so I have been told a time or two. Sometimes meeting someone new can be very nerve racking, especially if you are a woman like me. A woman like me meaning someone who seems to think that meeting a new a guy entails some hidden agenda on his end with some kind of game he wants to play. Well tonight proved me wrong, I met a guy who for one of the first times didn't have a hidden agenda. He just wanted to meet a new friend, get to know the real me, and allowed me to get to know the real him. I was instantly calm after a few minutes of talking to him and was able to have an honest laugh that I haven't had in awhile with a guy. Though today is only day one and tomorrow opinions could be different about one another, I can only hope they stay the same or get even better. One thing that still rings true, don't ever judge a book by its cover because what's inside may definitely surprise you. With that being said I can say that I met a guy who left a genuine first impression and then some that has changed my opinion about some things. ;-)

Some Things Never Change

Have you ever let time pass you by or it passed you by without you even knowing? When you finally catch back up with time or time catches back up with you, do things still seem to be the same? Almost as if nothing has changed? Why does it seem like some things never change? Maybe it is because they will not change. Somethings good or bad never change. There are moments in life that are a bit sweeter when the best things in life stay the same almost like they are never suppose to change anyways. The not so good things on the other hand, well the truth is we probably wished they would change but deep down we know they never will. We eventually just have to accept that some things good or bad will never change. It is perfectly fine if some things always stay the same and never change , because it's a part of life. Life is all about change and change. Though we may want them to, we will never be able to force change, some things just have to change themselves if they are going to change at all. Other things ,however, can stay the same forever and it makes the most perfect sense in the world. <3

Let Go Let Flow

Sometimes when relationships end it is often hard to go into another one without some hesitation. Although it may be clear that we want to move on, there may be some anxiety of what will happen next or what will you do next. The fear of what's to come is that which makes us paranoid of moving on. So what if things didn't go right in previous relationships, why is it fair to hold the memories of old relationships against new ones that could be possible if we would just let go of all the baggage, hurt feelings, and bitterness that follows us. We, including myself because I am just as guilty, have to learn to be okay with things not working out. Learn from what happened, start over, and be thankful for the lessons good or bad that you learned. Everything doesn't end with bitter intentions and not all things to come are going to fall apart. Of course we will be cautious with our hearts but don't be too cautious to where you may miss out on the wonderful things and people that could actually work out in your life. The next time you think about not taking a chance remember chances are the things that makes life a little more worthwhile. Let go of the past and let the future flow.

Once Upon A Gentleman

I met this guy once about 3 years ago right after I got in to a serious relationship with my previous fiancé. He was quite the gentleman but timing was terrible so I never actually met him. This past fall he was in town so I met him and getting to know him was rather nice. He wasn't like normal guys and nothing happened, but just knowing there were still gentleman left in the world was such a pleasant thought. He was smart, down to earth, had goals, and a lot of potential. Although he was leaving the next day I was glad I got to finally meet him, not only him but also the gentleman that he was. There however was a few things that bothered me about this gentleman he cared a lot about what other people thought. The other thing was he came across rather arrogant and it is not attractive in the case that you are trying to impress a girl. Without those two things he would have been absolutely perfect and I couldn't have like him more. I just hope he realizes that he can be a gentleman all day everyday but the arrogance can kill it in the matter of minutes. With that being said I believe there are still gentleman left in the world, and maybe just maybe I'll find me one of them.

Change....Why Is It So Difficult?

Sitting here on this rainy and less than perfect first day of January 2011, I can't help but think about relationships. Why do we condone the most hurtful and selfish behavior from our partners. Even though I am single now I still remember the days when things in my former relationship wasn't always perfect. When in a relationship most of us get too comfortable and being too comfortable stops us from doing something about the things that hinders our growth as individuals. In relationships we as human beings are still supposed to be able to grow as an individual and with the person we are with. A lot of times we put up with irrelevant behavior from our significant other because we think that things will change but the question is will they really change? From a person who still believes in love sometimes things will not change, therefore we have to make the decision to make a change about the things that are not going to change themselves. Though change can sometimes be difficult and hurtful, staying in a relationship with a partner who will always be "themselves" without change can be much more hurtful than making your own change. To change is to grow and if we aren't changing we aren't growing. Remember there are two things in life that are constant, that is change and change.